My last post (Are you in Love?) generated a discussion between a group of girlfriends from University that made me think about few things. Looking back at the peak of my work crisis, now connecting the dots, I see that there are lots of things that we can improve in our current situation without having throwing everything up in the air. Tony Robbins once said: “Nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that I give it.” Thinking about this sentence and remembering what I’ve lived during these “dark age” at work, with a demotivation beyond limits, I see that lots of what I’ve been through was inflated due to my perception.
Therefore, this had caused a lot of confusion inside of me, questioning innumerable occasions about my work, my career, thinking that the only way out would be a radical change. Literally, burn all the bridges behind you! Like that that would be no alternative than dedicate myself 1000% to my new plan. The biggest issue was I wasn’t sure about my plan. In reality I see I didn’t have a plan, I had an escape that wasn’t the solution for my problems.
I think it is extremely valid to analyze about how you are feeling and what are the reasons behind this, or where you would like to be in 3, 5 years’ time. However, it is not easy to find a resolution that will be the answer for your dilemma. What have I done instead to make my situation bearable and pleasant for me?
- Get away, right now, from people that complaint! Avoid contact with them as much as you can and if this encounter is inevitable you must learn how to shield yourself. Don’t fall into the trap! Complaining is contagious and when you start it can get out of control. Practice silence. Don’t argue, don’t create polemic. In other words, don’t add fuel to the fire.
- Doing something that you really enjoy after work helps lot! My passion is dance! I do salsa classes twice a week and when I am there, listening to the music and focusing on the movements, my mind stops worrying. Lots of my friends would say that having this personal time would be almost impossible because of their kids. Then, do something for your personal growth on the precious minutes you have alone. Sow your mind with positive things! Read a good book on your way to work, listen to good music or podcasts for your personal development. Do not keep thinking about all the worries of life during those 20 minutes.
- Change your perception. Today that task you do can be unbearable however it can be useful in the future. I remember I used to hate the classes of computer programming at University but if I had engaged myself how I should have done, today it would have helped me immensely! Do your best always!
- Be grateful for being able to learn something new, to hear, to think, to create! I guarantee next time you do that same task it will be tolerable.
It was not always I could put in practice what I have suggested above. Sometimes the stress is big and the only thing you will want to do is to scream and complain. Nonetheless, finding balance through the control of our thoughts and feelings is a DAILY exercise. Commit with yourself! Through the change of your attitude you will change your situation.
“Every day, in every way, I’m getting better and better.” Émile Coué