Are you in Love?

I will start my post today with something I heard on my way to work this week: “Work harder on yourself than you do on your job” (by Jim Rohn). I kept thinking about that and the first thought that came to my mind were my relationships. I think that is a great analysis to make to understand where you want to go and who you want to be. It’s been a while that I’ve been thinking about what I want to do with my professional life, something with true purpose.

After hearing those words, I remembered about how I felt in my first serious relationship. I started dating my first boyfriend because he was nice. We enjoyed time together but for me it was always ok, never amazing. Moving forward to next relationship, I feel different, butterflies in the stomach, maybe it is real love. Years pass by and I realize I am putting so much effort on the relationship, not on me, expecting the other person to change, things to change, praying for circumstances to change, and nothing happens.

Of course not, because the only person I can change is myself which consequently would change the situation. I realize I don’t want to be there anymore. It is much easier to know what you don’t want and, in my opinion, this is already a good start. It is a sign for change, that you need to move on so you can grow.

I made a choice, to get out of a relationship that it was not good for me anymore. I opened myself for life and started experience more. Even not having discovered what I wanted back then, when you open yourself and are able to receive, boom, true love finally appears! You can feel it in every single cell of your body! I felt in my heart, body and soul that I found my true life partner!

When you start to experiment life you will be in situations that won’t be great for you and at that time you don’t realize. It takes time to understand your feelings, sometimes more time than you think, but if you are constantly analyzing yourself and being aware to what you feel you will figure it out at some point.

I’ve been working at the same company for 13 years now. It’s been a good journey overall, though like a roller coaster sometimes, but it also allowed me to discover so much and to meet so many good people that I can only be grateful. However, I am feeling the same way as in my first relationship. I realized that I am in a good place, that provides me care, security, but I am not in love. I like, I have good times, and keep telling myself: “You are in a good situation, why change? Maybe if you just try more, try harder, the “just like” will become passion.”

Why bringing these examples? You have to relate with people for everything you do life, everything. Your job, your social group, your relationship, your family…living is interacting with people. And I think you need to be in love in all the areas in your life. Be in you love for your life, for your job, for your family. We don’t have just one goal in life, we have several. And these goals might change with time because WE are constantly changing.

Don’t just like what you do, be passionate about what you do! Finding out what you really want won’t be easy but never stop trying to discover these. Once you start investing more on yourself than in what you are doing things will become clearer. I made a choice this year to initiate a project that’s been long on paper and I will be very excited to soon share with you. Find your purpose, if you haven’t found yet don’t stop looking. I will finish today with of Steve Job’s quote “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well worn path; and that will make all the difference.

Enjoy your weekend!